Trash the Box: Be Yourself…

Trash the Box: Be Yourself…

(…and other motivational feel-good stuff)

I recently attended a talk by an incredibly interesting man, Etsko Schuitema. (Try get your tongue around that one with a mouthful of peanut butter)

The talk was largely around the launch of his new book, The Two Sandals, but anyone who has read Mr. Schuitema’s work or heard him speak can attest to the fact that he is a true modern-day philosopher.

And one particular piece of philosophy that somehow worked its way into his presentation was the notion that we put ourselves and each other into boxes and, by doing so, we also run the risk of putting ourselves into bondage. Read more

When You Give a Coke, and Receive Inspiration

When You Give a Coke, and Receive Inspiration

Let me tell you a story…

The other day, I popped into a local store for some basic groceries, a small Spar centre that I frequent regularly enough to know the staff and even a few of the car guards* in the parking lot.

*Dear international readers: In South Africa, we have “car guards” at our shopping centres. They’re a lot like this: Read more

Half-Living Life From Under The Rug & Why It Sucks

Half-Living Life From Under The Rug & Why It Sucks

What My Toddler Taught Me About Courage…

We attended a family birthday shindig recently, held at a kid’s party venue on the outskirts of the city. You know the type: a large outdoor garden, with a giant jungle gym, monkey bars, cricket pitch and plastic motorbikes strewn across a miniature race track.

It was a wonderful morning. Overcast, but not cool. About twenty young children showed up, and it was one screaming, messy, sugar-fueled blowout. Phew! Read more

The Power behind the Ten Year Question

The Power behind the Ten Year Question

Each morning I endure, on average, an hour and half to two hours of traffic en route to work. That’s one way. As you can imagine, it offers me excessive amounts of time to think, listen to sermons, or drown my sorrows. (in music, for heaven’s sake. Music!)

One recent morning, I found myself pondering a question that we’re all asked at some time or another, usually by some motivational speaker or a high school life skills teacher: Where do you see yourself in x-amount of years? Well, I thought, let’s have some fun with this…. I still have a good ten kilometres of hell ahead of me, I may as well dream… Read more

Who-Ate-My-Chocolate Syndrome

Who-Ate-My-Chocolate Syndrome

I packed a chocolate into my work lunch bag one recent morning. Feeling particularly naughty, I had already decided that I was going to have it for breakfast. (collective gasp of horror!)

I arrived at work, booted up my computer and went in search of a cup of coffee. I pottered back to my desk, and started wading through my emails. As I absent-mindedly opened the chocolate wrapper, an email caught my eye and, clicking on it, I found myself annoyed and indignant at its contents. Someone who just naturally rubs me up the wrong way was just doing what he does naturally – rubbing me up the wrong way !

I flew into an inner fury (inner fury, because I’m an introvert). I hit the reply button, Read more

The Night I Realized I Have Superpowers

The Night I Realized I Have Superpowers

Two years ago today, I was heavily pregnant with our first child and terrified of the adventure awaiting us around the corner. Saying that, after 6 weeks of bed-rest, I was only too pleased to welcome our squalling bundle into the world.

It was as I was going through my toddler’s bedtime ritual tonight that it occurred to me how much has changed since that day. Read more

A Lesson in People-Pleasing

A Lesson in People-Pleasing

We spent a week away during December, on a small game farm with my husband’s family. It was wonderful, hot, and beautiful, out there in the bush.

On around Day 5 of the holiday, our toddler started acting up. I don’t know what it was, perhaps she was just homesick, but she became a monster-child, screaming at everyone, emotional about everything, and just plain bratty.

I was suddenly faced with the dilemma on how to deal with her. Read more

RANT: Christmas

RANT: Christmas

I went on leave today, and so I am officially gearing up for the festive season! Yay me!

I’m not one of those Christians that takes offence when I see a greeting card that says “Season’s Greetings” instead of “Merry Christmas”. And while the use of “X-Mas” in place of “Christmas” does indeed baffle me, I’m pretty indifferent to that too. If you want to celebrate “X”, whatever the heck that is, be my guest. Read more

When a Parenthood Fail isn’t a Fail

When a Parenthood Fail isn’t a Fail

Every parent has them: bad parenting days. Today was one such day, and after what feels like an afternoon and evening of motherhood fail after fail after fail… something sinks in.

My kid is 22 months. Apparently, she’s already practicing to be a Terrible Two, as she stretches the boundaries, exercises her defiance and tests the limits of mama’s patience.

Mama’s patience wore thin today, and as a nonsensical fight between desperate mother and completely illogical toddler ended with aforementioned toddler pushing mother away and loudly proclaiming, “GO!!”… Read more